It’s become hip to rip on the church. People like to blame their problems on “the church.” You can hear these criticisms in popular culture. Take, for instance, Arcade Fire’s song “Intervention”:

Working for the Church while your family dies
You take what they give you and you keep it inside
Every spark of friendship and love will die without a home
Hear the solider groan, “We’ll go at it alone”"

The song paints the church as a militant institution, driven by discipline and an over-bearing work ethic. The central character sacrifices his family on the altar of “church” or ministry. This is often true. Churches all too often have more in common with Wall Street than they do Scripture. They enforce a merciless work ethic in the name of “mercy” or “gospel” ministry. All work no play.

There’s a Mistress in the House

My first year of church planting I started a new, full-time job, a new city, a new daughter, and a new church. Guess which one got the least attention? Family. As all these new things filled our lives, they began to crowd conversation with my wife. What was once natural—inquiring about my wife’s hopes, fears, and joys—became unnatural, even absent from our conversation. She patiently continued to ask how I was doing, but I was “working for the church while my family died.”

As my wife began to wither without the invigorating love of her husband, she revealed the affair. I’ll never forget her crushing comment: “I feel like there’s a mistress in the house.” I was alarmed and frustrated. How dare she make such a comparison! After all, I made a point of being home by 5:30 and on weekends. I made sure we had good family rhythms—breakfast and devotions, dinner and downtime. How could she say there was a “mistress” in our home? Then it dawned on me—you can be home without being home. I was present but absent. My thoughts, emotions, and concerns were with another Bride while I was home, not with my bride.

I had felt the gradual distance growing between us, but chalked it up to two kids under two and the important demands of church. I was wrong and Arcade Fire was right. The spark of love cannot live without a home. A house isn’t sufficient. Being present doesn’t cut it. What our relationships need is a home, a place where families can laugh, play, cry, and talk deeply together.

Recovering Your First Love

What was once natural became a discipline. I began to discipline myself to turn conversations away from church, work, and ministry and towards her and our children. I began to love her by asking about her hopes, dreams, fears, to encourage her hobbies and friendships. I relearned how to empathize and suffer, rejoice and laugh with her. Slowly the spark of love began to kindle. The warmth of friendship began to return in our resurrected home. My thought was that discipline could give way to desire. But discipline wasn’t enough.

What my wife wants, what every wife wants, is not a disciplined, duty-driven husband, but a loving, desire-driven husband. A husband whom, when thanked for a weekend get-away without the kids, says to his wife: “It’s my pleasure” not “It’s my duty”! Our wives want to be desired, cherished, valued. In fact, all people want to be cherished, but until we clear the shelf of our hearts of subtle idolatries, discipline will not give way to desire. We must put away our “mistresses.”

Repentance is Good News

In order to put away our sinful lovers, we need a power outside of ourselves. We need the power of repentance and faith. In Revelation 2-3, Jesus calls the seven churches to repentance. For example, he writes to the church at Laodicea: “Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent.” In love, Jesus calls us to zealously repent.

I repented from loving the worth I received from my work, the significance I gained from serving my church. To repent is to turn. When we turn, we turn away from one direction toward another. The proof of repentance is not in our confession or resolve but in turning from our lovers and turning to our Savior. Where do we get the power of repentance? How do we conquer these lesser loves? By Spirit-empowered faith in the promises of God.

Jesus continues: “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. ​If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, ​I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me” (3:19). The call to repentance is followed by the promise of satisfaction in Christ. Leave your lovers and turn to your one, true Love. Open the door and Christ will come to you, not only that, he will dine with you. Repentance is a call away from the famine of idolatry to the feast of table fellowship with Christ. Repentance is always good news.

All who over-work and under-love need to repent. We need to confess the idolatries of worth-by-work, of significance-by-service, and turn to face the loving, all-accepting, never-ending significance offered to us in the arms of our Savior’s embrace. Through Spirit-empowered trust in the promises of God, we can draw near to Christ and receive his perfect love, acceptance, and grace. It is from this position alone that we can truly love our wives and families. When we are satisfied in Christ, we can satisfy our wives. When we cherished by Christ, we can freely cherish others.

We don’t have to work for the church, the corporation, or the business while our families die. Every spark of friendship and love does not have to die. We can build a home that is filled with love, if Christ takes center place. When we embrace the practice of repentance and faith in Jesus, the idolatries of work can be cleared away with Christ at the center of our affections. Then and only then are we free to truly love others. When we do this, we will adorn the gospel of Christ and restore the reputation of the Church, revealing the glories of the gospel in gift of marriage.

You will observe that I am not merely exhorting you “to go to church.” “Going to church” is in any case good. But what I am exhorting you to do is go to your own church—to give your presence and active religious participation to every stated meeting for worship of the institution as an institution. Thus you will do your part to give to the institution an organic religious life, and you will draw out from the organic religious life of the institution a support and inspiration for your own personal religious life which you can get nowhere else, and which you can cannot afford to miss—if, that is, you have a care to your religious quickening and growth. To be an active member of a living religious body is the condition of healthy religious functioning.

~ B. B. Warfield, The Religious Life of Theological Students

The American landscape is dotted with churchless Christianity. Church has been reduced to a weekly event, even a religious institution. Instead of being the church, we have fallen into merely doing church, and far too often our doing is disconnected from being. Church has devolved from Gospel-centered community into man-centered institutions or events that look more like: shopping malls, fortresses, and cemeteries. These aberrations contribute to the confusion regarding “church” in America. In order to better understand Gospel community, it is important that we first understand its abberations.

Shopping Mall Churches

Shopping mall churches dress up the gospel in cultural clothing, dress down the message of Jesus, and try to lure consumers in with their spiritual package—a Sunday “experience.” Every time I drive to Dallas, Texas I pass a church that boldly advertises their Sunday package at the low price of thirty minutes. Their banner reads: “30 Minute Worship.  This innovative service is for anybody who is tired of the way traditional church has been done, has limited time, or has to work Sundays. The high energy, focused package will creatively engage you to personally connect with God.”

How creative and personally connected can you get to God in thirty minutes? We’ve all had a conversation with the person who watches the clock closely. They constantly check their phone during the conversation. Towards the end of the meeting they flinch, shake, or tap some part of their body repeatedly. You feel unwanted, not “personally connected.” Consumer church cuts the relationship with God and one another right out of Christianity replacing it with a spiritual product. It can’t even get its one-third of the gospel right, never mind the other two-thirds, which include community and mission!

Fortress Churches

Fortress churches also distort the gospel. They build their doctrinal towers nice and high, hide behind the walls that separate them from the city, and launch grenades of truth into “the culture”, hoping to scare a few pagans into the safety of their walls. Sometimes the walls these churches erect aren’t doctrinal but moral. They insist on certain level of perceptible morality before allowing the outsiders inside the church. One of my favorite examples of the fortress mentality comes from the church sign down the street from my house. Marking each season with a “gospel message”, they greet the city in the Spring by posting: “Spring is God’s greeting card.” Fine enough. But in Texas, Spring is quickly followed by a long, hot summer, to which they respond: “You think it’s hot out there?” Comforting. Fortress churches cut grace right out of the gospel by insisting we get our morality or doctrine straight before joining the church or we will end up in hell.

Cemetery Churches

Then there are the cemetery churches. The ones that have died. Well, they are alive but they aren’t. It’s difficult to find a pulse. A wandering soul walks into the Sunday service of cemetery church only to be confronted with lifeless, joyless Christianity, a kind of dried up religious community that simply goes through the motions. Church growth isn’t even on the radar. Mission has been reduced to church survival. It’s hard to believe in the Jesus who promised “life abundantly” when you encounter a church that has more in common with zombies than with disciples of Jesus. The fortress church cuts the heart right out of Christianity and replaces it with dead, lifeless religion.

Shopping mall, fortress, and cemetery churches are consumerist, doctrinaire, lifeless institutions that lack Jesus-centered missional community. Why this gross distortion of the church? There are far too many reasons to discuss here, but a fundamental reason is that a one-third Gospel characterizes Christianity in America. This one-third gospel is hardly the Gospel of Christ at all. It focuses on Jesus’ death and resurrection as a product to be sold, a doctrine to be believed, or a religion to be practiced. This one-third gospel is not only incomplete but also contaminated, polluted with the garbage of consumerism, individualism, and religion. Before we can press into the other “two-thirds” of the gospel, we need to get the “one-third” right.

*This is an excerpt from my forthcoming booklet: Gospel-centered Missional Community.

It is impossible to avoid homelessness in Austin, where it is estimated that on any given night up to 6,000 people sleep without a home. In January, at Austin City Life, we talked about renewing our beloved city by moving people from a place of mercy to a place of justice, from temporary hand-outs to permanent transformation. As one City Group discussed the call of the gospel to advocate for justice, they began to ask questions about what it would look like to do this with Austin’s homeless. In a matter of months, a vibrant, viral gospel ministry has begun among Austin’s homeless, moving them from mercy to justice. Here are some stories of transformation among our homeless friends (by Nate Schlueter, a mission leader in one of our City Groups).

In a matter of months, a vibrant, viral gospel ministry has begun among Austin’s homeless, moving them from mercy to justice.

Reflecting Christ in Relationship with the Homeless

We decided that to effectively engage the homeless we would not be able to judge our success based on tangible help. There are plenty of excellent organizations in our city that can feed or clothe homeless people with way more resources than a small group like ours could ever expect to have. Instead, success in our mission is based only on two things: 1) What kind of friends we are to the homeless and 2) How well we reflect Christ’s love to them. Simply said our mission is: To Reflect Christ through genuine relationships with homeless people. We treat them with the same love, dignity, and respect that we would our closest friends. As we began to build these relationships, it became very clear to us that our new friends were in fact very talented and interested in working, especially in the idea of micro-enterprise.

Micro-enterprise Among the Homeless

We worked with them to discover their skills and develop a plan for them to create art, crafts, and contemporary home furnishings to sell at Austin’s weekly art shows. We create all of the items from recycled or renewed material. Our slogan is RENEW: Recycle, Restore, Repurpose- this is what we do when making the items and what we fully expect Christ to do in their lives and in ours. The results have been incredible.

We have seen people that were initially scared and skeptical of homeless people loving them, sharing meals with them, opening their homes to them for showers, and sitting in the woods for hours talking to them about Christ and life.

In the first five weeks, through the art shows and part time jobs we facilitated for them, we have been able to build platforms for them to earn over $1600. They are spend it wisely. Many of their lives are beginning to  change dramatically and, maybe even more so, our lives are changing. We have seen people that were initially scared and skeptical of homeless people loving them, sharing meals with them, opening their homes to them for showers, and sitting in the woods for hours talking to them about Christ and life. There are many amazing stories of how God is moving, Here are just a few that I have personally witnessed.

From Bitter Religion to Gospel Dignity

About a month ago I came out to their camp to check up on them and discovered that Dan was the only one there. He seemed like something was on his mind so I asked him what it was. He told me that everyday he wakes up thinking about how his parents got divorced and how angry he still is about it. He told me they got divorced when he was 13, he is now 46. He was raised in a strict Roman Catholic home and does not understand how his parents could break God’s commandments like that. It became apparent that the very religion and legalism that he believed to bind him to God was actually keeping him from forgiving and living in grace. He judges himself with the same standards he judges his parents because he too has broken several commandments. He has woken up every day for 33 years angry about what happened.

We talked, we prayed, we shared life, we cried, and we shared our dreams for over two hours. Dan is now working on operating daily through Christ’s forgiveness and grace instead of through anger. Dan is a very talented craftsman and mechanic and we are currently working with him to get him a job as a mechanics helper or lube technician. We are also helping him open up a savings account so that he can start saving to buy a camper and rent a place to put it at an RV park.

Master Craftsmen Discipling Urban Christians

When we first started hanging out with our friends the subject came up about what I would be doing on that Saturday. I told them that I was going to help some some people from my church replace a very old deck in their backyard that had become unsafe for their children to play on. They immediately said that they wanted to come and to pick them up at 9 that Saturday. I graciously explained that this was volunteer work and nobody had budgeted to pay anyone to help. They looked offended and said they just wanted to help.

It isn’t just a one-way street anymore, people from total opposite ends of society are starting to live life together and everything is changing for all of us.

When we got their they immediately started taking apart the things that we hard started to assemble and began reconstructing and revising our initial plans for the deck. Apparently the deck we were planning on building would not be any safer than the old one and would not be up to code. I watched amused as these homeless craftsmen gently pushed us middle-class urbanites out of the way and built this totally amazing deck for some people they hardly knew. It became apparent that not only did they have amazing skills, but that we were all learning from them. Here were three men with nothing giving there time to people with way more than them. As I watched them give back and minister to us that day, I realized that we were crossing into an area that none of us had ever been before. They truly loved us back and thought of us as their friends and they were just trying to be good friends. It isn’t just a one-way street anymore, people from total opposite ends of society are starting to live life together and everything is changing for all of us.

The High Calling is running my article “What Defines a Great Leader“, reflections on the life and leadership of Saul and David. Here’s an excerpt:

Saul tried to manage and control everyone around him. He relied on bribes to get others to fight Goliath (17:25). Saul discouraged young leaders like David (to not fight Goliath) because he was threatened by their leadership. The problem wasn’t that Saul lacked vision for what David could become; it was that he feared what David could become. He sought to manage, not empower the leaders around him. David, on the other hand, was constantly surrounded by “mighty men.”

We can lead our company, church, and organizations through empowerment. Rather than insist on control, we can relinquish control to let other leaders rise up in faith. Often we are too doubtful about some and too confident about others.

Very briefly, I’d like to lay out the ingredients of the communion meal instituted by Jesus and observed by the church for twenty centuries. In laying them out, I don’t’ want you to merely inspect them for accuracy but to inspect yourself, your own diet. Are you keeping all three ingredients together in your communion with God? Or is your meal, your diet incomplete, off?

The Ingredients of Gospel, Community & Mission

We observe these elements in Matthew 26, where Jesus had his “last supper” with the twelve disciples. The gospel ingredient is present in Jesus description of the bread and the wine, symbolizing his body and blood given for us. The very body and blood that would be betrayed and abandoned by men at that table, men just like us. The gospel ingredient reminds us that we are worse sinners than we dare to admit, but in Christ’s body and blood more forgiven and loved than we could ever fathom.

The community ingredient is present in that Jesus shares this first communion meal with his community of twelve, his disciples, twelve persons in community, not twelve individuals. He emphasizes the community by asking them “all” to drink of the cup. They didn’t drink as individuals but as a community, a proleptic new covenant community in his blood (1 Cor 11).

Finally there is the mission ingredient, which is harder to detect but certainly present. Jesus tells the twelve that after that night he will no longer drink the “fruit of the vine”, wine. Why? Because he will wait “until that day when I drink it new with you ​in my Father’s kingdom.” The mission ingredient of communion is present in the promise of “new wine.” The hold the old but are moving towards the new. Jesus will bring the new after the mission of the disciples is complete. The new wine is for the arrival of the new kingdom, the consummation of God’s creation project into a city-temple-cosmos resplendent with his Bride (Rev 21). Jesus intimates mission by setting a vision of the future.

Pushing forward into the mission and kingdom of God, the church drinks and shares the wine of redemption until it becomes the wine of celebration. We drink the old wine until the day that what his blood bought becomes all that he wants: new and kingdom-sized not old and incomplete. Jesus is waiting for the church to fulfill her mission in giving away the wine of redemption to all the peoples of the earth, and then Jesus will return to drink a new wine, a wine of celebration in Father’s Kingdom. Gospel, Community, Mission, all three are ingredients of the Communion Meal. If one goes missing, we dishonor the Meal.

Repenting over Missing Ingredients

Now, in 1 Corinthians we discover that the church is eating the Lords Supper with missing ingredients. They get drunk on the wine and eat without waiting for one another. The Gospel ingredient is missing because the Body and the Blood have been reduced to fast food and public intoxication. The meaning of the gospel is thrown out the window as people throw back their wine. It’s just a meal, not a communion meal or the Lord’s Supper, which is why Paul says: “it is not the Lord’s Supper that you eat” (11:20).

The community ingredient is missing because there are “divisions and factions among you” (11:18, 21) They eat as unreconciled individuals, not as a reconciled community. Mission is absent because the gospel and community are absent. They are not “proclaiming the Lord’s death until he comes” but proclaiming themselves, their own wants, greed, and comfort. So here’s the question, here’s where we inspect our own diet. Are we missing some ingredients in our own observance of the Communion Meal? Gospel, Community, Mission? Christ, Church, or our City?

Allow me to suggest two areas where we might need to examine ourselves, where we might be missing ingredients. First, community. Perhaps you’re so busy living for yourself, feeding yourself that you aren’t taking any time to feed and love others? Are you investing in others in your church, small group, missional community not just by showing up to a meeting but immersing yourself into their interests, sufferings, and joys? Or are you gluttonous, fat on a steady diet of self, neglecting Christ’s church, your very own family?

Second, maybe you’re feasting on comfort so much that you are neglecting mission? You use your money and time for your own comfort but not for Christ’s mission. You’re fat on self-indulgence while people starve for Christ in this city. You’re gluttonous not generous. In 1 Corinthians 11:28 Paul says “let a person examine himself, then eat of the bread and drink of the cup.” Examine, inspect, not what you are doing well but where you’re missing ingredients, where you need to confess sin, repent, receive forgiveness, and change. Consider where you are dishonor the Meal, the Body and Blood of Christ.

The Gospel Keeps All Ingredients Together

As you reflect on your poor diet this morning, there is hope of a better diet, a well-balanced meal that comes, not through self-correction but through gospel repentance. Correcting your diet, alone, but coming to the Lord’s Supper, the Gospel Meal. We need the Body and the Blood of Christ—the wine of redemption until it becomes the wine of celebration. The Gospel alone keeps all ingredients together.

Come to the Bread this morning, the body which is “for you”, a death for your gluttony and self-comfort. He died to rescue us from our destructive diet and to satisfy us with the better meal of his Son & Spirit. He body broken for us to rescue us from our sin. And come to the Wine this morning, which adds to our rescue, his forgiveness, forgiveness for starving his Church of community, forgiveness for starving his City of his mission (Matt 26:28).

See, when we feast on Christ, his Body and Blood, the rest of the ingredients fall together. Our diet balances. When we delight in Christ we will love his church and his mission. We will feed one another and our city generously from our bounty in Christ, with our money and our time, gifts and love. So come in repentance and come to celebrate! Let’s drink the wine of redemption until it becomes the wine of celebration at the return of our Savior King. Let’s rejoice in Christ’s Body and Blood, our common rescue and forgiveness, our common gospel, community, and mission!

1. Always ask missionary questions, not just when your missional community forms. For example: “What do the people we are engaging fear, value, or need?” Allow those answers shape how you respond in mission to them, i.e. married university students don’t have a need for shelter and food but they do feel a need for community and education. How could that shape your mission to students? How do their responses change the way you articulate the gospel? See some of Tim Chester’s helpful comments on Identity and Decisions in Community.

2. Pastor people through missional community multiplication. When multiplying a missional community, be sure to identify the general anxiety in a group publicly and pastor the community thru it in the gospel, i.e. “Hey guys, I sense some of you are nervous or disappointed about losing our people to a new mission?” Then after surfacing the anxiety, ask people how we can apply the gospel to that anxiety? Guide the community from anxiety to celebration by hosting a joint party for a new missional community. Multiplication is a celebratory birth, not a mourning of a death. It’s adding to the family!

3. When making decisions that affect the whole group, make them in community, not just “from the top.” For example, the appointment of a new leader in training, the timing and location of a multiplication, should all be a community discussion not a decision handed down from leadership. Talk things through, create space for unity, shared wisdom, united mission.

4. When settling on a missional focus be discerning in your partnerships. Is it okay to share a mission in community with another missional community? As long as there is enough work, it is within your geography, and you can eventually reproduce that mission in your context. Don’t “commute” to your mission. Mission is where you live. Although you can share some mission across missional communities, remember there are two other layers of mission that you can not share: 1) Mission as Neighborhood 2) Mission as Vocation.

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I’m reminded this morning that repentance is always good news. It is the reminder of Christ’s profound love for us, that God has accepted and forgiven otherwise unacceptable and unforgivable sinners. Jesus said to the church at Laodicea: “Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent.”(Rev 3:19) Repentance is good news because it draws us away from unfaithful lovers to sweep us back into the arms of our one, true Love.

Love Doesn’t Lead us to Neutral

In repentance, God’s loving leads to our turning. Turning from sin is turning to Christ. It’s not a hollow confession in the neutral zone of a no man’s land, where we are left drifting, unguarded only to drift back into the same sinful fray all over again. Love doesn’t lead us into neutral. It doesn’t overlook sin and leave us stranded in no man’s land. It confronts, calling us to the better land. To not settle for slums when there is a paradise to be had. This is the love of Christ—reproof and discipline—pouring out upon us, the church.

Repentance Includes Resolve

So this morning, Lord, I receive your good news and I repent of wandering eyes and turn to fix my eyes on the beauty and glory of Christ. I repent of impatience with my children and turn to the great patience of the Father with me, his son, that I might extend an enduring love to my own children. I leave behind the false lovers of lust and self importance. I zealously repent this morning, turning to your open arms, unfailing love and never-ending importance. I refuse to fake repent, to enter the no man’s land of hollow confession and habitual sin. I will push into the promised land with zeal and flee the slums of sinful indifference. I cry out for the help of the Father to strengthen his helpless son. I resolve to so trust you that I live more dependently and obediently. And I do so, not despairingly but with hope…

Repentance Leads to Feasting

For your call of loving repentance comes with a promise: “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the do0r, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.” Repentance is good news because, as I close the door on sin, I open the door to Christ. Notice that this is a call to the church. When we respond to his rap-a-tap-tap upon our hearts, he meets us, not with a disapproving frown, or impatient scolding but with a warm embrace, an embrace that moves us from slums to paradise, from lovers to one, true Love, from disobedience to obedience. He waits, lovingly to feast with us. He will dine with me and I will dine with him. True repentance leads to feasting, feasting with the King!