Year: 2011

When Church is a Mistress

My first year of church planting I started a new, full-time job, in a new city, with a new daughter, in a new church. Guess which one got the least attention? Family. As all these new things filled our lives, they began to crowd conversation with my wife. What was once natural—inquiring about my wife’s hopes, fears, and joys—became unnatural, even absent from our conversation. She patiently continued to ask how I was doing, but I was “working for the church while my family died.”

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This article first appeared at Christianity Today in the Faith & Work section. Be sure to check out The High Calling for other helpful articles on vocation.

Getting Started with Disciple-making

On Sunday we talked about how Christianity became a global movement, not through elite preachers but through men and women making disciples of men and women. This multiplying growth of the gospel was more effective for two reasons: 1) They shared life and the gospel. 2) They grew by multiplication not addition (adding people to a service). We looked closer at Paul’s approach to discipling, noting that he assumed the role of brother and father in his discipleship relationships.

2 Discipleship Relationships

Brotherly discipleship happens among peers; fatherly discipleship happens with a mentor. Austin City Life does a pretty good job of brotherly discipleship through Fight Clubs, but needs to grow in fatherly discipleship where we mentor others who are younger in the faith or disciple people into Jesus for the first time. I challenged our church to recover the waning gospel movement that has shifted away from America by joining the historic movement of disciple-making right here, right now in Austin.

For some of you, your first step will be to just connect with our church community more, by visiting a City Group. Others will be looking for a “mentor” right away. Let’s all consider, not only how we can connect or be mentored, but more importantly who we can disciple. Pick just one person to disciple this year–a friend, neighbor, co-worker, person in your City Group, Fight Club or someone in our broader church community. As you consider who God is calling you to disciple, here are a few things to keep in mind

Practical Things to Keep in Mind

  1. PRAY that God would lead you to someone, preparing both of you for a father-son or mother-daughter relationship. Ask God to awaken faith in non-Christians around you.
  2. CONSIDER who would be a good fit. Don’t just pray, think. Dont rely on personality magnetism alone; different people can teach us a lot.
  3. ASK take initiative by asking someone to mentor you. It is important for Christians to take initiative with people they would like to be mentored by. Invite a potential mentor out for coffee or over for lunch and talk about what you are looking for. Establish some basic expectations: What sharing life might look like, Things to Discuss, When you can meet (get it on the calendar).
  4. START making disciples right away. Move forward with intentionality in your relationships, moving people closer and deeper into Christ. Be the kind of person that chases others’ joy, challenges them to be better people, and encourages them.
  5. REMEMBER you are not entitled to a mentor but you are called to make disciples. Don’t wait until you find a mentor to begin discipling others. In one season of life, my wife asked three women to be her mentor and all three turned her down. Man, they missed out! Ask God to give you the privilege of seeing people “take their first breath” and grow, mature in Christ.

Make disciples and join the movement. You won’t regret it. Its the best thing you can do with your life!

Helpful Resources on Discipleship

A Response to Responses to Bin Laden’s Death

As expected, the assassination of Osama bin Laden has sparked a range of responses. People poured out into the streets of Washington, some celebrating with American flags while others morosely brought flowers. Christians are no exception to the polarized responses.

Within minutes Christians were preaching at one another on Facebook and Twitter in support of their nanosecond-formed viewpoints on the death of Bin Laden. Opposing Proverbs were cited in support of opposing views, while the non-Christian press focused on reporting events accurately and sympathizing with 9/11 survivors. As I write, news media are plastered with images and announcements regarding the death of Osama bin Laden. Blogs, articles, books, sermons, and movies are sure to follow. How should Christians respond to this significant event in contemporary history? Here are two initial suggestions:

Restrain your desire to be heard with a greater desire to be discerning. Within seconds viewpoints were spouted on social media. These unbaked responses betrayed very little reflection, which is why I appreciated the occasional comic relief via Twitter. Can anyone really sort through the cultural, ethical, and theological issues surrounding Bin Laden’s death within minutes?

Allow me to throw another proverb on the heap: “Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19). Adapting James’ wisdom for the 21st century, we might say, in some instances, we should be quick to reflect, slow to tweet, slow to rant. To be sure, the controversy over opposing viewpoints regarding Bin Laden’s death would be present without social media. The difference, however, is that the controversy could be much more profitable, sharpening, and reflective if we were slow to respond publicly. Time has a way of balancing our perspective.

Be quick to reflect, slow to tweet, slow to rant.

Don’t let social media manage you; manage your social media. There’s something compelling about the ability to broadcast my opinions to an instant audience. Is it the dopamine rush of rapid response or something more? Perhaps our instant response betrays our not so instant community, our isolated lives imprisoned by social perspectives of a rather thoughtless Christianity? Let’s be honest. How many people are going to pull out their Bibles in community and have a vigorous, open, winsome discussion about this face-to-face? Not enough.

Or maybe we just let social media do our thinking for us. We are so hooked on instant communication, that we’d rather air opinions and let the chips fall where they may. Could it be that our minds have become content with rapid, regular bits of information–sending or receiving–that we have lost the value of personal, theological reflection? Closer to home, are we content for our minds to be managed by social media because we care more about what others think than what God thinks? Have we become so preoccupied with social media that we fail to be occupied with theological meaning?

The way forward is being slow to speak, quick to listen, and intent to draw near to God. After all, no one cares more about evil and justice than God himself.